It wasn’t your fault!

ou’ve gone over it a million times already… in your head, wondering how you could’ve been different, how you could’ve done something better. We often forget what’s gone is GONE, OVER. What lies ahead is important. Think of the amazing things life has to offer and try to move on.

Right now, you’re probably an adult capable of making responsible decisions for yourself and also assuming you had the choice even then. No you didn’t. You were a child, if you want to understand how a child thinks, spend sometime with kids, see how they perceive things in general and their opinion on the same things and you’ll realize how naive you were.

If you hate your childhood, for whatever reason, don’t keep sulking over it. Give yourself a second childhood, do all the crazy things you probably would’ve done as a child. Go crazy at an amusement park, if you’ve been scared of the rides so far, take that extra step now and watch yourself scream your heart out with excitement that you’ve been missing out on so far.

Usually people would advice you to keep yourself busy, keep doing something to keep your thoughts occupied. But how? And trust me on this one… You have every right to be happy, no matter how sad situations have left you. I am not saying “see the silver lining” I am saying create one for yourself. Do things that make you Happy, that’s the key. Keeping yourself occupied with things that’ll get you out of a sad situation. Don’t just listen to music, listen to it as loudly as possible and let it HIT you, soothe you.

Go to the Zoo, spend time with nature. Get your mind off human beings for a while, we’re surrounded by people and often it gets on to our nerves. If your feeling low, ask your partner / friend / family member to take a walk with you and if the shops are still open, make sure you get some ice cream and enjoy it the clumsy way, in a cone.

Have you always been afraid of taking risks? You might not know the exact reason, but what matters is that you have been scared, you’d think a hundred times before playing a prank on somebody and even if you did have the guts to go ahead with it, end up feeling miserable after you’ve done so?

Well, I’d say this is the time… BE SELFISH… take some risks (not playing pranks), like playing or watching extreme sports, dancing the way you wish to, speaking to people you were shy of talking to, grabbing hold of your loved ones and hugging them real tight to express yourself… EXPRESS! You might not like to paint, but just take a blank sheet of paper and paint whatever you want or just splash the vibrant colors on the page, you’ll feel the colors help you feel more lively.

If you feel you have a lot of anger and frustration inside you that won’t come out so easily, maybe if you have the time, take up some kind of martial arts, through rough body movements and discipline, you would find yourself letting off the heat in you. Don’t give yourself the chance to hurt others around you emotionally or physically because you are frustrated from within. Chose from a huge list of anger management techniques that would suit you.

I’ll try and put up another article on what activities one can take up when one’s going through a rough period to come out as a winner, no matter how badly the situation is pulling you down.

Keep yourself happy… and see the happiness spread all around you. You are strong, beautiful and have every right to be happy. Love yourself and you’ll be able to love those around you.

I SUGGEST: Please find the video of Baz Luhrmann’s - Everybody’s Free (that is if you haven’t seen or heard it yet, in any case, you’d love to see / hear it again)